It wasn’t that long ago that I wrote EXACTLY Why I Don’t Post Pictures of My Kids Online and I still stand by it.
I still don’t post full-face pictures of my children online.
Yes – not even on my own personal Facebook account.
Lately, however, certain opportunities have presented themselves where this “rule” we have in an effort to protect our children may be holding one of them back.
Sugar Plum has been offered an opportunity to dance in a music video. It’s a video that is appropriate for nine year olds and is dedicated to supporting girls in sport. It’s a message I support whole-heartedly but it is also a message and a video that will be posted online.
The release form asks for full permission to use my daughter’s image, her name and the city in which we live.
Every other time I have said no.
But this time – for the first time – it feels like I am denying her an opportunity. At some point, if she continues to grow as a dancer and as a performer this “rule” we have to protect her will effectively hold her back.
The question is no longer “if” it is simply “when”.
When will it become impossible to continue to support our daughter without giving her the opportunity to build her own online presence – her own brand?
I had planned on standing by our “rule” for the eternity of my own online presence – believing that giving up blogging opportunities and press trips because I wouldn’t release my children’s names and images was the right thing to do for our family (remember my husband was a police officer for over a decade). I never thought to consider my children’s own online presence or the opportunities our “rule” would force them to give up – only because they were so young when I started blogging.
So I am having deep thoughts about this “rule” and the risks and the norm I have governed myself by since the first time I hit publish.
I don’t know what the answer is, but I know I need to come up with one.