Working Mom vs. Stay At Home Mom: The What We Wear All Day Edition

“You look beautiful…” she said as the nine year old let her eyes trail from my black shiny pumps right up to my pulled back Pinterest braided bun, “… my mom never dresses like that.”

My own daughter was hardly interested in discussing my clothes.  To her I’ve looked like this Monday to Friday for the eternity of her existence except for a few maternity leaves.  She was happy simply because I had come to pick her up at school which meant she didn’t have to take the bus.

It was dance picture day and it takes me at least 45 minutes to put on her make-up and do her hair and since call time was at 5:10pm I had no choice but re-organize my entire afternoon to be right here right now to have my outfit critiqued by nine-year-olds.

“Does she always dress like that?” my daughter’s friend asked her.

“She has to.  She works.”  my daughter replied.  It was matter of fact because it’s true, I do work.

The girls’ conversation turned to a school project and I think a boy (though they hushed their voices instinctively so I couldn’t quite be sure) as they packed up their school bags and switched their indoor shoes for their outdoor ones.

When she saw her mother come up the hallway my daughter’s friend rushed to her side “Look Mom! That’s my friend’s mom and she looks soooo beautiful.  She dresses like that every. single. day.”

I smile and wave and let my eyes take in the head to toe Lulu Lemon ensemble.  Just by looking at her you know she wears Lulu not just for comfort like I do on the weekends but because she actually goes to the gym.  Probably does yoga too.  Her hair is perfect, her nails are polished and to me, she’s more beautiful than any other mother at school pick-up.

I can only wonder what she’s thinking of me.  Despite what her daughter has said I look tired, am squeezing myself into my favourite pencil skirt with a double-Spanx approach and if you look closely you will see a clear run in my nylons slowly but surely making it’s way down my leg.

And then she says… “you really do look beautiful.  I wish I had an excuse to dress like that.”

But I can’t help but wonder if she knows that on some days I would give anything to be a stay-at-home mom.  On almost every day I would give anything to ditch the high heels and the pencil skirts for Lulu Lemon yoga pants and sweaters with thumb holes.

But until that happens (if it ever happens) it’s pure working momma uniform all the way.

Working Momma

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  1. The grass is always greener, isn’t it? Wouldn’t it be great if every couple of months we could all switch roles for a few days?

  2. Thank you for this post. Very well said.
    I too am a working Mom, this year was our first year of school (preschool) and I am that Mom showing up in my work clothes amongst all the Lulu Lemo.

  3. I just recently became a stay home mom. I had been a paralegal for almost ten years . My son just turned two and it would make me jealous to hear all the stories my nanny had about my son. They would go to museums and parks and it hurt to think I was missing out on his formative years. I took a leap of faith, started my own business so I can be home with him. I am loving it and don’t regret my decision and I definitely do jot miss sitting behind a computer all day.

  4. Haha, I work part-time so get to experience both worlds. Then I lost some weight so was treating myself to new clothes until I realized I was buying a five day wardrobe for a 2-3 day need. As though there are some moms who show up looking stunning at school pick-ups, no way I am cramming into anything but comfort clothes on my days off – I consider it a “win” if not wearing pj bottoms and remembering a bra 😉

  5. I work from home, but I still try to dress for the occasion – been caught one too many times in my pyjamas for a Skype call!

    You look lovely and efficient 🙂

  6. I am lucky to work at a university, so it’s generally fairly casual. No yoga pants for sure, but most days I can get away with khakis and flats or capris and sandals.

    Lots of stay at home moms look way more put together in their Lulus than I do in my work wear:)

  7. I agree with the “grass is greener” comment. 🙂 I’m a jeans-and-T-shirt mom. I have a few outfits for when I dress up, but since I stopped working in an office when my oldest was born, I’ve slowly been trimming back my “professional” wardrobe. I guess we all find what we like to wear. 🙂

  8. I would wear a pencil skirt over Lulu’s any day! You look perfect, by the way.

  9. What I love most is that you looked at each other with smiles and compliments – and that is all.

    (Wouldn’t the world be better if we all did the same?)

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