I am rarely questioned on why I don’t share full-face pictures of my children on my blog – until very recently my husband was a police officer and people (and I hope all of you) understand that because of this we take a few extra precautions.
What many of you (and my friends and family) don’t understand is why we take that to the extreme and don’t post pictures on our personal Facebook site or on any private photo sharing sites or even on a private You Tube account.
What the school doesn’t understand is why I refuse to sign the form that allows my child’s “image” to be used on the school website.
But I’ll tell you – it’s because of this.
Most people share pictures online without ever even considering what “bad” people may do with them. Unfortunately, my husband knows all to well what that cute little bare-bum picture of Sweet Pea in the kitchen sink could be used for if a certain type of person found it online.
It could be used by this certain type of person for personal pleasure. Or worse.
The “worse” is when that “bad” person starts sharing those images with the other “bad” people they know then one (or more) of them becomes fixated with your child’s image and starts to look for them. Obsessing over them. They don’t even need to know your child’s name.
Which is precisely why we will never allow the school or daycare to post images of our children online – you are essentially telling predators where your child is every single day for years!
So why not Facebook?
As my husband says, you are not just sharing with your “friends” you’re sharing with all of their “friends” too and do you know who every single one of those people are? Do you know what they will do with those photos?
Of course, we take EXTREME cautions. Mostly because of my husband’s job and because of all the things he “knows” that most law abiding citizens would never even consider.
Trust me, if my husband wasn’t a cop I would have posted pictures of my children all over these pages without ever giving it a second thought. And there are definitely moments where I wish I could share with you just how cute my kids really are.
But then something like this happens and you can’t help but wonder – who really is looking at those photos.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t post pictures of your children online. I likely would if my husband hadn’t arrested some fairly scary people in his cop-lifetime.
BUT I am asking you to THINK first and CONSIDER the pictures you are posting online.
That cute little bare-bum picture could be so much more than “cute” to someone hundreds of miles away or even to your next door neighbour.
You don’t want to be that mom who discovered her diaper-clad child dancing on YouTube attracts attention from 3,000 people she does not consider friends or family because she will forever have to wonder who is looking at her child’s image and what they are using it for.